There's that one girl. You know the one. The one that wears cute, matching outfits to the gym. Her hair looks awesome. Her eyeliner is perfect every time. Everyone seems to love her. She is just plain adorable. And you want to be her SO bad.
Why do we compare ourselves to others? It's a normal reaction! I do it often!
In my business, I hear it regularly. "I want to look like this for my vacation." I have a client that has a pair of pants hanging up in her room and she tries them on every weekend to see how much further she needs to go.
We all want to be THAT GIRL. I have trained that girl. I have been that girl. I have several on my staff. They ALL want to be someone else. I promise. I try to encourage all my clients to be the best version of themselves. It's not always a bad thing to have something to aim for, it's when we obsess that things turn nasty very quickly.
So, are you ready for the beach this year? Here's a MASSIVE secret.. Even "that girl" thinks that she isn't ready. She doesn't exist really. Even the most beautiful model wakes up feeling bloated some days. She binge eats at night while watching This Is Us. And in all honesty - do we really want to be "that girl"? OH, THE WORK. I have had the privilege to work with some extremely fit people. It takes an astonishing amount of work. Like, pulling cold, bland chicken out of your pocket every hour. I had one that was so tired of lugging her gallon jug of water around that she painted and named the jug. She would proclaim, "Me and Betsy are here to work out."
My clients have success because they don't go overboard. Now, if you hire me to train you for a Ms. Olympian fitness competition, then you better stock up on some chicken at Costco. But most of us are not training for a once in a lifetime event. We just want to look decent on the beach. So, how do you get to that spot?
You start improving something. Anything. That one thing that you feel you can control and succeed at. I walk in the gym constantly and think, "Why does everyone have their shit together but me?" I think at least once a day while training a client, "Yeah, I haven't worked this muscle group in like 5 years." It's ok though. No one has their shit together.
Everyone has issues. I can't get enough sleep at night. My cat loves throwing up grass right at my bedroom door. I can not stop eating those new chocolate chip cookies I made. At least three times a week, I will inevitably leave my perfectly portioned macro lunch at home. I only ate a cup of green beans for dinner last night. I could go on and on here.
So, find something that you can be confident about and pack your bags. Great legs? Pack the shortest shorts you can wear. Not ready for a bikini? That's ok, pack a super cute one piece. Maybe you didn't make the cut for the Sports Illustrated models this season, but there's always next year. Again, pick something to do or focus on and start there. I've been dealing with some serious health issues and all I can seem to lift the past two weeks is my feet. So, I've been walking an extra 20 minutes each day. It's not in my plan but it will have to do. I'll start back weight training soon.
Need help? (We all do at some point!) Then, give me a call. Or comment below. I just had a very successful personal trainer hire me because he couldn't get himself motivated and on the right track. Within two weeks, he was beyond happy with his progress. Just having someone to watch you and gently nudge you along can sometimes make a world of difference. I also run nutrition groups regularly that I would love for you to get in. They are full of information and a great success for many. Like I said above, sometimes you just need a gentle nudge in the right direction. One nudge leads to another nudge which leads to that call from Sports Illustrated.
No matter where you are - go and enjoy the summer. Enjoy your vacation! I mean, don't eat a dozen pastries each morning from that adorable shop around the corner. Let's aim for maybe 2 each morning. Happy Summer!